I got my O Level results and I did badly. My family members (even extended ones) are scholars and they expect me to do well. Unfortunately, I didn’t and I am sure they will see me in a different light after I tell them about my results. With CNY coming, people will definitely ask me how I fare? How do I be discreet about my results to save face when they ask? Answer: I have written about the unimportance of face previously so I shan’t delve into it. (Summary: You live your own life! Who cares what others think?) My solution: 1. Get over yourself Iran might be facing a war. The world is faced with climate change. Millions of refugees are stranded and there are children dying of hunger. Your problem is really insignificant compared with those. More importantly, do better in poly, JC or ITE, whichever you choose for your next step. If you have to repeat another year, so be it. In twenty years, you will look back at it and realise it’s what you do AFTER the results that matters, not the results. If you had aced the exam and slacked after, you won’t be getting anywhere too. 2. Own it There is nothing to be ashamed of. Just tell them your grades. If they are family and friends, they will accept you for who you are. If they don’t and actually see you in a different light because of grades, you are better off without them in your life. To parents: Please do not exacerbate this situation by adding oil to fire. I know of a parent who said her son is “useless” in front of him when others asked about his results. She was probably trying to fend off questions but this does not help matters. It will only demoralize the kid further. To relatives: Just shut up. Be tactful this Chinese New Year. If you are genuinely concerned, you will be sensitive to his feelings. If you are just kaypoh, shame on you. You, kid, have to live with such a question. You can’t change others. (I guess you can give them the dagger stare) but you can change yourself. But the ultimate point is, what you score at the O’s does not matter now. How you rectify the situation later is way more important. Focus on the right question and worries. #thurswithwei #olevels #cny

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I got my O Level results and I did badly. My family members (even extended ones) are scholars and they expect me to do well. Unfortunately, I didn’t and I am sure they will see me in a different light after I tell them about my results. With CNY coming, people will definitely ask me how I fare? How do I be discreet about my results to save face when they ask?

Answer:

I have written about the unimportance of face previously so I shan’t delve into it. (Summary: You live your own life! Who cares what others think?)

My solution:

1. Get over yourself
Iran might be facing a war. The world is faced with climate change. Millions of refugees are stranded and there are children dying of hunger.

Your problem is really insignificant compared with those.

More importantly, do better in poly, JC or ITE, whichever you choose for your next step. If you have to repeat another year, so be it. In twenty years, you will look back at it and realise it’s what you do AFTER the results that matters, not the results.

If you had aced the exam and slacked after, you won’t be getting anywhere too.

2. Own it
There is nothing to be ashamed of. Just tell them your grades.

If they are family and friends, they will accept you for who you are. If they don’t and actually see you in a different light because of grades, you are better off without them in your life.

To parents:
Please do not exacerbate this situation by adding oil to fire. I know of a parent who said her son is “useless” in front of him when others asked about his results.

She was probably trying to fend off questions but this does not help matters. It will only demoralize the kid further.

To relatives:

Just shut up.

Be tactful this Chinese New Year.

If you are genuinely concerned, you will be sensitive to his feelings.

If you are just kaypoh, shame on you.

You, kid, have to live with such a question. You can’t change others. (I guess you can give them the dagger stare) but you can change yourself.

But the ultimate point is, what you score at the O’s does not matter now. How you rectify the situation later is way more important.

Focus on the right question and worries. #thurswithwei #olevels #cny from Study Room https://ift.tt/35TrbCJ